by Jenny Leather | Life Success
Day 14 – Perfect Place, Time and People
I cannot believe how fast the weeks are going by and how one day I am up the next down. Last night I started to feel flu symptoms coming on, today the glands in my neck are up and I feel very heavy in the head. Time to take it easy, this “Too shall pass”
It reminds me that it is normal for life to have the ups and downs, on reflection of the last 5 -7 years maybe I had bought into the story that life should always be great, no problems. I had previously assumed that if I was experiencing tough times that there must be something wrong with me. I never stopped to think this was just a normal phase of growth. When I judged myself harshly was when things started to go wrong, The judgement compounds the problems, my energy dropped and I went into a doom cycle that had me feeling depleted and unmotivated for days or weeks at a time.
At the time if I could have accepted that some days we will feel great, motivated and inspired and other days it could be my internal guidance system telling me time to take it quieter today. All is perfect no need for judgement or examination, it just is. Later I was to realise in the quiet and stillness I have been able to hear the guidance that holds the next step or I have been able to acknowledge the feeling present that needs to be released for me to become the person to fulfil my dreams. The tiredness ended up being the gift to prepare the next ride.
My unrealistic expectation of how life should be is one of the things that started a downward spiral that lasted for years. When I thought at some level that I was lacking in something, I was more likely to buy something or some program to sort out the so called problem? Obviously I have nothing against education products but what I am suggesting is maybe I could have ask different questions. If I started with the premise that there is never anything wrong. Is what I am feeling reasonable for the situation I find myself in? Am I overworking? Am I living beyond my means? Am I truly grateful for the things I have in the now?
In answering these questions honestly, I then found myself asking, what do I really value beyond money? Are the things that I am doing risking the loss of any of these important areas of my life? If so, how I was feeling was the warning sign, a gift from my higher self, I wish I had known to stop and listen maybe I would not have had to pay such a high price.
I am a Cancerian, a homemaker, yet in my ego state I risked the family home to gain more money which in truth I did not need. I did not stop to listen to whether I was in or out of integrity with my own values. I am OK about it now yet it was a hard lesson to learn to honour youself first.
The journey has only just begun, insights are followed by personal growth, is that not why I are here in this life time? I think so!
Have a great day, you define what that looks, smells, feels and sounds like for you.
Love always
Jenny
by Jenny Leather | Life Success
Day 13 – Emotions are a Gift of Healing.
Another cloudy yet beautiful morning pondering on how did I ever get on the dieting cycle?
I think most of the weight loss centres intention started out to support people to lose weight but within a very short time realised for the business model to work people would need to buy their brand of diet products that started a multibillion dollar industry that may now have an agenda about people not healing the underlying issues. They want people to keep returning 2 -3 years down the track if not sooner.
They sell lifetime packages hopefully to gain loyalty when they need to return next time. They really make their money on the food and support products we all buy. I have no issue with people making money but imagine the response from customers and the referrals that would follow if they could deal with the underlying self-worth or fear of success issues as well. Wow would that be worth attending.
The better answer would be to have emotional intelligence as a class in school. Start with the healing before the physical issue manifests into a reality.
Enough of the soap box, I can see if we understood to deal with our emotions and not stuff them down and lay concrete on top we would have a lot less dis-ease.
As I have mentioned numerous times emotions are a gift that can allow healing on the inside with ease. As children if our feelings are acknowledged instead of comments like ‘stop crying you baby”. This was said too many boys as a way of making them more manly. They learned that to show emotion is wrong, must stuff it down and after many years they have trouble feeling or dealing with life challenges that appear. They did not learn to understand and release the emotion that is now held in the body they are holding all the anger, pain, sadness etc. all undealt with emotion.
What was said to you that stopped you believing in you? Who stole your dreams? How did you feel at the time and how did you respond at the time. What have you been telling yourself all these years after that occurred. Maybe who do I think I am to do xyz or I really am not smart enough to do ABC.
Let’s look at another possibility, A teacher says XYZ that has you feeling small and worthless, you feel, angry, embarrassed and do not hear that she is attempting to highlight something you did that is hindering you succeeding from her opinion. All that you can think about is your friends that are listening to this and what they might be thinking.
I am here to tell you, it is not about what they are or aren’t thinking it is about how you are feeling. Those feeling were within you or they would not have presented. We may not remember what incident or drama they are attached to and we do not need to know anything other than it is time to surrender these emotions to a higher power (whatever that is for you, God, Allah, Budda, Universal power, Love) and ask for help and support. Where else are you feeling vulnerable? What action do you need to make to feel safe? Who can you talk too for support? These would have been valuable question to examine in the moment of the incident. No time like the present ask the questions now.
When we release the feeling attached to these or any story we can be free to BE anything that we can imagine. You can achieve and DO anything that brings you joy, hope, optimism so dare to have ago.
Dare to put your old way of being behind you and forge a life that supports your dreams and passion.
Excess weight is a symptom of being out of alignment with your authentic self. It is a journey to uncover you magnificent authentic self, a journey well worth endeavouring on.
It is always “All about you” and the vibration you are emitting to the world. If we emit self-love and strong self-worth backed by travelling a path that delivers our gifts to others, magic will happen to bring joy and love into your life.
Have a great, prosperous day
Love always
Jenny
by Jenny Leather | Life Success
Day 12 – Believe in Yourself
Day 12 – Wow how a great night sleep has me feeling rested and content in myself. Over the last couple of years I have not been sleeping well yet blamed it on my age. I went through menopause with amazing ease other than poor sleep. I decided a long time ago not to worry or focus on the number of hours just check in to how I was physically feeling each morning.
Yesterday I decided to get a multi vitamin tablet for women over 50 and Yes last night I slept probably 10 hours, AMAZING. I understand yesterday I did some healing work and yes I was tired so I will let you know how I go over the coming month.
I have never been one for taking a tablet for every little dis-ease that present, intuitively I always knew there was other ways that could help. The power of the mind body spirit combination and the willingness to let go of emotional feelings around experiences in my life has had massive healing properties..
It is interesting that we wait until a traumatic event arises before we go in search of answers. I wonder is it human nature to wait until we are sick? How beneficial would it be to do research now so the dis-ease in our body does not even become a reality in the NOW.
From my reality we are the script writers of our movie called “Our Life Journey”, I chose all the cast members (YES all the cast) and I am designing how this movie will play out. I have all have previously chosen the things I need to learn and experience in this life time so I can heal at a deep level for once and for all time. Stay with me if this is a stretch for you because this reality has given me the power to design my future as I want to experience it. I am happy to answer any questions that arise.
When I started to clean up the body from the inside both physically and emotionally I was able to find myself dreaming about the way life could be. I started to make a list of what I would like to do and see in the coming years. I have created a collage of picture to support me to remember what these things will look, feel, smell, sound and BE like for me.
I have done this numerous times and over the following years I cross them off as they became a reality.
Interesting to review when life went off track I stopped dreaming and setting intent, I froze and could no longer see possibility. I understand how this can become reality you are so intent on giving yourself a hard time. Going over and over what went wrong and how you could have been so stupid to get caught in the illusion. Hoping someone would come along to rescue you. If this is you, the answer is in letting go of the feelings that are draining your energy / life force particles. You will need support of loving friend or coach.
Welcome to the real world, I now realise that when you are living full out, every now again you get caught in the ego of thinking you are playing this game without a greater help. That is why I created the “Reclaim Your Power flipchart” it supported me to see where my mind was at in a glance.
I now realise I would be dead if I had really lost connection with a higher part of myself permanently. The ups and downs were present for me to heal the feelings on a deeper level than I consciously understood. I decided to surrender to what was required for me to reach my potential to achieve that which I was here to do.
I believe it is to inspire people to find and love themselves to share their individual gifts with the world.
Have a great day
Love always
Jenny
by Jenny Leather | Life Success
Day 11 – Interesting some days you wake up feeling flat, time for the cup of tea and make some plans to get moving.
I check in with myself and notice “Sadness” is present, interesting! Yes I could tell you a blah blah story about why I could justify being sad and you would probably all agree. Then I would find myself playing the victim and the poor woe me story would begin stealing my energy. I would probably surrender to food!
No more, at the start of this journey I set the intent to surrender anything that was holding me back from BEING in my power. So be it, sadness is here, I release it to a power greater than me.( 3 slow deep breathes, with the intent and request for assistance) I ask for whatever needs to be healed, please help. Be gone, DONE! It can be that easy if we are really ready.
Underneath there was some fear and then doubt. GREAT doubt shows me I am moving to a new way of being. Bring it on!
Change does feel strange at times. Different habits are being created and need to be withheld.
You have a choice do you go back to your old ways of not caring or do you hold onto your vision.
“Slim Trim feeling Terrific”.
That’s the one that does it for me, visualising myself walking with ease when I am 80, standing upright, confident and strong.
Do we let life and others steal our dreams? Or do we let go willingly ourselves?
NO not this time, the feelings that come with feeling healthy far outweigh any challenge that shows along the journey.
Something I was pondering yesterday, we sometimes allow other so called good meaning friends steal our dream. We mention that we are on a healthy eating plan and they respond AGAIN.
Well yes again until I learn whatever I need to, so that my vision becomes a concrete reality. Everyone has their own unconscious or sometimes conscious agenda so they respond in a way that makes them feel better.
If you become “Slim trim and looking terrific” what does it say about them?
If you become wealthy healthy and wise will you still be their friend?
Watch out that you do not give you power and dreams to other peoples insecurity. You are on a journey of BEING that which you say you are, the power of the words I AM is very powerful.
You are calling in support and strength from something greater than just your physical self, you are calling in support from the universe.
I AM THAT I SAY I AM “slim trim feeling terrific” yehy feeling better already, repeat your vision to yourself 3 times and feel the feelings in your body. Even if it has nothing to do with a weight journey, yell out your vision, feel the energy enter your body.
You are ready for a new day, unstoppable
Enjoy the day
Love always
Jenny
by Jenny Leather | Life Success, Uncategorized
Day 10 – Who do you love the most?
Time for the answer to be YOU!
As mother we tend to say our children, as children we might say our parents. As wives we may say our husbands but not too many women or men say themselves. Why is that?
In truth we cannot give what we do not have, so if we do not love ourselves then how can we really love another?
Could there be other games playing? One that has us playing small so we do not remember our own potentia.
l What are we really trying to get?
1. Approval to be shown that we deserve to be loved because in truth underneath people judge themselves harsher than anyone else would ever dare to do.
2. Save someone so then they can be beholden to you in some way
3. Be rescued because we do not believe in ourselves enough to know we will be OK.
4. Power – some people enjoy being in charge and having things done their way it gives them a level of importance.
All these situations can become addictive to a point we don’t even know we are playing the game. What if we were to realise we do not need anything from another, that we hold all the answers ourselves, we have forgotten our potential. What would happen if we stated by making ourselves NO1 for a part of everyday?
What if we were to ask for something that was really important to us, even knowing our partners would not approve. Would that be OK?
I have found when working with clients when they answer NO they are more likely to have a eating problem. Eating is a way to dull down our own potential, we get into a cycle of giving ourselves a hard time for being overweight, if this is true, who are we to have dreams of greatness? Crazy cycle that needs a light shined on it now.
When you understand what you desire is important enough to be acknowledged you may be surprised to see how solutions arise. The gift comes from how you feel when you decide to make yourself no1, maybe anxiety arises, what will people think, perhaps I will lose my partner. If either of these fears is true then they may not be the people you would want to be with today. If they only love you when you are playing victim game then I would be asking do they really love me.
The gift comes in letting go of the feelings, surrendering them to a higher power or get support initially until your own power returns.
This whole process needs to be done gently explaining it is not that you do not love your friend or partner yet this is a new phase of your life that you are exploring and some things may need to change. If they really love you they will be inspired even if not at first. They may feel threatened because people usually do not like change; this is none of your business they have to learn to deal with their feelings.
Start by making a list of you gifts and talents, YES we all have them start NOW
Speak soon Have a great day
Love always
Jenny
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