As mother we tend to say our children, as children we might say our parents. As wives we may say our husbands but not too many women or men say themselves. Why is that?
In truth we cannot give what we do not have, so if we do not love ourselves then how can we really love another?
Could there be other games playing? One that has us playing small so we do not remember our own potentia.
l What are we really trying to get?
1. Approval to be shown that we deserve to be loved because in truth underneath people judge themselves harsher than anyone else would ever dare to do.
2. Save someone so then they can be beholden to you in some way
3. Be rescued because we do not believe in ourselves enough to know we will be OK.
4. Power – some people enjoy being in charge and having things done their way it gives them a level of importance.
All these situations can become addictive to a point we don’t even know we are playing the game. What if we were to realise we do not need anything from another, that we hold all the answers ourselves, we have forgotten our potential. What would happen if we stated by making ourselves NO1 for a part of everyday?
What if we were to ask for something that was really important to us, even knowing our partners would not approve. Would that be OK?
I have found when working with clients when they answer NO they are more likely to have a eating problem. Eating is a way to dull down our own potential, we get into a cycle of giving ourselves a hard time for being overweight, if this is true, who are we to have dreams of greatness? Crazy cycle that needs a light shined on it now.
When you understand what you desire is important enough to be acknowledged you may be surprised to see how solutions arise. The gift comes from how you feel when you decide to make yourself no1, maybe anxiety arises, what will people think, perhaps I will lose my partner. If either of these fears is true then they may not be the people you would want to be with today. If they only love you when you are playing victim game then I would be asking do they really love me.
The gift comes in letting go of the feelings, surrendering them to a higher power or get support initially until your own power returns.
This whole process needs to be done gently explaining it is not that you do not love your friend or partner yet this is a new phase of your life that you are exploring and some things may need to change. If they really love you they will be inspired even if not at first. They may feel threatened because people usually do not like change; this is none of your business they have to learn to deal with their feelings.
Start by making a list of you gifts and talents, YES we all have them start NOW
How many times do we surrender what we want to allow someone else to be right or happy?
What is the price to your energy and life force particles?
As many women do I always wanted to buy or do the things that made my family happy. Happy family equalled secure Jenny. I am not saying this is wrong it definitely is a phase that we travel but when do we decide it is our time.
I remember someone asking me “how I like my eggs cooked”. I thought what a crazy question until I realised I was not sure, I always did what the family asked. I decided to try, boiled, fried, scrambled, egg benedict, omelette and poached and the only one I really enjoyed was fried with a soft yoke.
This had me looking at all different areas of my life, what I did and did not like? When you choose what you really like the life force particles start running back into your body. When you make yourself feel good everyone else benefits anyway. Gary now says “happy wife, happy Life” I think he is right.
What will happen if you really don’t know what makes you happy? You may continue giving you energy to another until you are so tired you cannot make different choices.
Stop now, change the game and start by making a list of the small things that make you feel good.
– A cup of tea in peace
-A soak in the bath
– Meeting a friend for coffee
– Time out to read a book
Then make sure one of these items is in your life EVERY day consciously. When we are awake to making choices for us then more opportunities will arise. Gary knows that if I am feeling flat and he makes me a cup of tea and say go have a relaxing bath, everything get turned around for the better.
The happier we are the more likely we will make choices to eat healthy food to support our vision of how we are looking out in the world “Slim, Trim and Terrific”
Day 8 – How one area of our life affects all components.
It seems to me life tries to send us ways to heal our limiting beliefs to awaken to our potential. For 30 years I struggled with my weight. On review it was never that bad maybe 10 – 12 kg before something inside of me said “Enough is enough what are you doing girl?”
Then I would change my action for a short while and get the response I desired. Then there appears to be a pattern, one day someone would mention how great I looked and within 2 months the weight would start to come back on. This was a journey I think I have repeated 15 -20 times over 34 years. What was I missing? What was going on within me that repeated this over and over again?
All the data says most people who put lose weight regain slightly more by the next year. The more we diet the bigger we get so obviously the dieting was not working in the long term. Interesting what do you do when you lose things? For me you go find them, interesting how we all go find those lost kilo’s. The power of our words!
If all experiences on earth are here for us to heal something at a deeper level maybe I had missed an amazing opportunity.
On review I think I have hit the nail on the head but for me it took the MAC TRUCK to hit me so that I would finally awaken to how I sabotaged my life. The mac truck came as a financial meltdown due to a property development collapsing after the GFC and numerous other things imploding due to level of debt.
It appears if you do not listen to early prompts they only get bigger.
– I was to experience
– A son having cancer
– My only brother died on train station after massive heart
– Invested large sum of money with a businessman referred by friends and lost the lot.
– Middle son had a work place accident amputating 4 fingers
– Our property development went into liquidation after the GFC.
– Financial challenges escalate.
– Lost Family home
– Huge credit card debt
Before I was finally ready to heal what was within me that needed releasing. What else would need to happen for me to realise I was a common denominator in all these situations.
Now I want to make it very clear this is not about blaming yourself it is about grabbing the gift of healing as soon as possible.
I now realise if I had of known how to heal the emotions around why I eat maybe my life would have taken a different turn. I also understand all is perfect I am experiencing and understanding this process because I am not the only one that will benefit.
In asking why did I turn to food? Could a group of people have an agenda about keeping people easily controlled? Maybe! Who benefits from all the process foods and diet products? How do people feel when they are overweight or giving their self a hard time for eating the food that is presented to us every day. Are we being sublimely programmed to eat mind dulling food? What would happen if we decided to love and nurture the temple we live in?
I imagine we would be feeling lighter, enthusiastic for life. Maybe we would even choose to live by different values all interesting topics to ponder. The power is in letting go of emotions that limit our potential to BE HAPPY.
Feeling good this morning, quite peaceful and content with where I am at, moving forward one step at a time.
I hold my vision of BEING slim trim and feeling terrific, I close my eyes and it is already a reality, I feel the ease of movement and the enthusiasm in my step. Life is so interesting so many ups and downs which accumulated together is a necessity to grow and evolve.
Interesting how we do not appreciate what we have when it is right in front of your eyes. I have realised until we have experienced the opposite it is very hard to understand the NOW if you are unconscious to the game of life. The game where the mind/ego would like to think it is in control and eventually you end up unwittingly giving it control. Then it wants to stay feeling important and to do so starts to relay and opinion of every aspect of your life every minute. That “little voice” in your head that continually chatters and the majority of the time is running YOUR life. If you are wondering what voice I am talking about? I am talking about the one that just asked the last question.
There is another part of you that is being ignored the majority of the time because we are too busy or no time, maybe our debt is so high we are stressed to the max. Whatever the reason is, we are unable to hear our own “Internal guidance system” that is trying to help us out of the mess we have created or if we are alert support us to avoid turmoil all together.
Have you had a thought about a friend and 2 mins later they ring? Have you walked into a business meeting and noticed your body shiver and anxiety wash over you? Have you had sense your young child was not well but had to wait a day before the doctor could pick up what was wrong? If you have answered YES to any of these then you have experienced a connection with you higher self.
To get more understanding and to be able to listen to this internal wisdom we need to slow down. When I look at the majority of people they are speeding up due to the demands of the material world. Who do you think will benefit? Not your family or your health, the large corporations and the tax man together they have sold us the illusion that we need more things as Robert Kiyosaki author of Rich Dad Poor Dad called Do Dads.
In truth what we need more of is connection; this journey I am endeavouring to explore is to have more connection with me on all levels. To be in integrity with what my life journey has been about I do not believe I could have been studying life success and spirituality for 20 years for no PURPOSE.
One thing I have learned you cannot give what you do not have so first I had to learn to love and value me. This took me learning to manage my “Little Voice” that has an opinion on everything because it fears losing its level of importance. I needed to reassure ‘IT” that all was ok but the game was slightly shifting. “IT’ was important but as long as it served me and did not try to take back the driver seat. I have taught “IT” I love it as a passenger. Now we are getting into alignment with my hearts journey.
Enough for today, Have an amazing day remember for 5 mins at least “Stop to smell the roses”
Day 5. So called Bad things happen to good people so we can heal.
First thought was I have got the dull headache again but after a glass of water along with a bit of activity all is good.
It is amazing how I crave an old way of being “Eating Unconsciously” without thinking about consequence. Wow how often do we do this in other areas of our lives?
Last year we lost our home due to a collapse in a business project. I remember trying to hold on for months thinking someone or something would come along and save me. I was frozen to move forward for fear of the absolutely unknown. I feared the post, the tax man and the judgement of others but in truth I was judging myself so harshly no one else could out do me. Then somehow I realised the only person I was hurting was myself.
Time to heal, this started with forgiving me and everyone else involved, along with doing a fear release technique that I required more than once. This did not happen overnight because there were a lot of people and situation involved. I have learned when you set the intent the help arrives and it did regularly.
I am extremely grateful for all the different people that played a part in my journey.
I started by taking responsibility (as hard as that can be in the moment} by firstly starting to create a plan to move forward one step at a time. 18 months later we have cleaned up the majority of the mess and ready to share our insights. As you can guess many up and downs in this component of the story. I now realise all opportunities to let go of the underlying emotions.
What other decisions do we make before really looking at the potential cost or risk?
For us it was to risk our family home and I remember the state of mind we were in at the time. We had bought 30 properties in 18 months featured in Dale Beaumont’s book “Secrets exposed of property millionaires” Our ego was in the chatter of we could do no wrong. Then we made some decisions in the desire for more or maybe to prove how smart we were, little did we know it was the rise before the fall.
What did we need to learn? When we listen to the ego voice we are doing everything on our own and not listening to a higher guidance. We had moved into a journey of doing it to get more financial riches. When we did the 30 homes it included a process to help people get homes in a different way while we made good money. The later was in alignment with our heart / spirit and the monetary journey was following our mind /ego story.
All good we all awaken somehow!
I can see there are similar patterns within stories, weight loss and financial success. In both situations we were looking for easy way and desiring approval at some level from others. This was just one layer of the financial situation. One of my core programs was to believe I lacked something and needed more, this showed up even when obviously we were living an abundant life.
I have found this lack is really the lack of connection with all parts of self. This brings in all components of self, the mind body and spirit concepts. When we were doing the 30 homes all components were at play yet when we moved in larger developments only the mind and body were in the game.
With my weight journey it has always been looking for the easy answer involving only my mind and body get it done and then move on. I have never asked that higher part of me to work together and release whatever it is within me that kept repeating this process. I realise today, I have gone for the easy quick fix again by going radically dropping carbs, coffee, sugars (Reason for the headache) and eating high protein for 6 weeks. My real journey will begin beyond losing the 12 kg.
This really is going to be an interesting journey. Please feel free to ask questions, hopefully we can all benefit together.
Day 10 – Who do you love the most?
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